Coulda, woulda, shoulda… something that we’re all guilty of every once in awhile is regretting something we did or didn’t do. It’s easy to reflect on things in hindsight and realize that you made the wrong decision, but the fact of the matter is that sometimes we make bad decisions! When it comes to a momentous occasion like your wedding, the last thing you want is to be filled with regret, whether it’s regarding the color scheme you chose or the font on your invitations. Of course, it’s best to try not to sweat the small stuff (like the font on your invitations), but sometimes there are wedding decisions you made that you wish you hadn’t. Here’s how to avoid the biggest and most common wedding day regrets.
1. Not hiring a professional photographer
Many brides are constantly looking for ways to cut corners and save money on the cost of their weddings. After all, weddings are expensive events! The number one regret I hear from brides that their biggest regret is not hiring a professional wedding photographer. They had hoped that they would save money by asking a friend to take photos for them, but unfortunately these friends were unable to deliver the beautiful wedding day memories that they wanted. Hiring a professional wedding photographer is one of the most important decisions you’ll make about your wedding. Remember that only a professional will have the knowledge, skill and expertise to create stunning images and really tell the story of your wedding day. If you’re struggling with a photography budget, ask your photographer if she can create a custom package to fit your needs or work out a payment plan so you'll breathe easier. I want you to have the memories of your wedding day forever and there are no opportunities to do wedding pictures over if you don't hire a professional to get it right. 2. Not allotting enough time to take photos with special guests
In a similar vein, not allotting enough time for photos on your wedding day is another huge regret brides experience. You stress over meticulously planning out the wedding day timeline, but somehow it doesn’t work out according to plan. Even if you find yourself short on time for posed photos, it’s absolutely crucial to make time to take a few pictures with those who are most important to you. Your elderly grandmother, your best friend who flew out from Europe, your dad who lives on the other side of the country – all of your VIPs deserve to have a few minutes so that you can take photos with them. If your allotted time for posed photos isn’t enough, be sure to make a point of bringing your photographer with you around the reception to capture those special moments you’ll treasure forever.
3. Not inviting someone you weren’t sure about
Creating a wedding day guest list is extraordinarily hard – everything is based on your budget and venue space. You likely had to pick and choose between a few different people to finalize the guest list. One regret many brides share is choosing not to invite someone they weren’t 100% sure about. Unless you’re absolutely positive you do not want this person to be at such an important event in your life, we suggest sending the invite anyway. It’s better to have extended the invite than to regret not including this person later on in the future.
4. Forgetting to eat or drink
As the bride or groom in a wedding, you are in extremely high demand. You’re on a strict schedule and everyone is pulling you different directions. One of the biggest mistakes brides make during their weddings is forgetting to eat or drink anything all day! Staying properly hydrated and nourished in such a demanding situation is absolutely crucial for your health and happiness. Ask your maid of honor and best man to keep an eye on you to ensure you are eating and drinking enough. Besides, you’ve spent all that time and money choosing the menu, so you should enjoy it!
On the other hand, another regret some brides have is that they drank too much on their wedding days, causing them to either forget parts of the day or embarrass themselves in one way or another. Enjoying alcohol on your wedding day is your prerogative, and every bride and groom should be celebrating with their guests. Being too drunk on your wedding day is problematic, so it’s important to have your maid of honor or best man be aware of how much you are drinking. Alternate one glass of water for every glass of alcohol you consume so that you can maintain a good level of sobriety.
6. Not speaking up
You might think that you’ve hired professionals to handle everything in your wedding, so if you’re not sure about something they are doing, you’re too afraid to speak up for fear of being referred to as a bridezilla. This can lead to you being dissatisfied with the results, whether it’s your wedding photos or the way your emcee is talking during the reception. This is your big day – you spent all this time planning it and choosing the right vendors for the job. If you ever feel as though something is not right, speak up! Your vendors would prefer for you to speak up and get the job done right than have you complain after the wedding.
7. Forgetting to get vendor details in writing
When you’re hiring your wedding vendors, there’s a lot of back-and-forth communication through various channels. A lot of times, you’ll reach a mutually agreeable decision on the phone or in person, meaning that it might not necessarily get written down. One of the most important things you need to do when signing any contract is to make sure everything you’ve discussed is there in writing. For example, maybe your caterer told you on the phone that she won’t charge you extra if you go less than an hour over the allotted time. But then, when you receive your final invoice, you see that you’ve been charged for the overtime. Having these sorts of agreements in writing on your contracts is the only way to guarantee that there won’t be any confusion during or after the wedding.
8. Getting swept up with the stress
We know – it’s super easy to get swept up in the craziness of your wedding day. One of the biggest regrets brides have is letting the stress get to them. All the anxiety and stress that comes with wedding planning can be overwhelming, and it can be difficult to keep a level head and not let the drama get to you. Keep in mind that your wedding day is meant to be the happiest day of your life – when you look back upon such an important day, you only want to remember the happiness and beauty of the day, not how stressed out you were making sure everything was perfect. Try to let go of the little things and focus on the big picture: you’re marrying your best friend, and all your loved ones are there to celebrate with you.
Throughout all of the tears, laughter and joy you’ll experience while planning your wedding, it’s important to stay focused on the big picture and try to enjoy everything that’s leading up to such a happy day in your life. Don’t be afraid to speak up if you have your doubts, make sure you hire trusted professionals, don’t forget to eat and drink and most importantly, don’t sweat the small stuff!
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